Thursday, October 9, 2008

how to manage stress???

There are some steps in managing stress. Stress can make us weak. So if you get stress, you can try this steps.

-Avoid unnecessary stress
Learn how to say “no” – Know your limits and stick to them.
Avoid people who stress you out – If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship entirely.
Take control of your environment – If the evening news makes you anxious, turn the TV off. If traffic’s got you tense, take a longer but less-traveled route.
Avoid hot-button topics – If you get upset over religion or politics, cross them off your conversation list. If you repeatedly argue about the same subject with the same people, stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when it’s the topic of discussion.
-Alter the situation
Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way.
Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you’ll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.
Be more assertive. Don’t take a backseat in your own life.
Manage your time better. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress.
-Accept the things you can’t change
Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.
Look for the upside.
Share your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist.
Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes.
-Adapt to the stressor
Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective.
Look at the big picture. Take perspective of the stressful situation. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run.
Adjust your standards. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”
Focus on the positive. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts..

think by ourselves..daa

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